Once again, I need to lift Parker Palmer’s Facebook post and plant it here. Not only does he state beautifully what I might try to re-state less deftly. He uses one of my all-time favorite poems by Marge Piercy to illustrate his point. In the interest of sharing the already-invented and of honoring my “Con Fem Friday” post theme, here is an excerpt from Parker; and the full text of Marge’s poem.
He says: “If we value things like friendship, family, community, education, workplaces that work, and democracy, there’s a minimum requirement. We must learn to talk with each other, even when we disagree. Not ‘at’ each other, or even ‘to’ each other; but WITH each other!”
Parker goes on – but I want to share lines from Marge’s poem that speak strongly to me – and hopefully to you, as well:
We must sit down …
Perhaps we should sit in the dark.
In the dark . . .
only the words
would say what they say…
into the dark, perhaps we could begin
to begin to listen…
The men must bother to listen.
The women must learn to say, I think this is so.
The men must learn to stop dancing solos on the ceiling…
Read the entire poem here: COUNCILS – Marge Piercy
And thank you for listening!